DIFFERENT TYPES OF CONSOLERS EP 3

 DIFFERENT TYPES OF CONSOLERS (EP. 3)

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Before we proceed, can we take a minute to appreciate God who took His time to create our mother!😀😀

How are you doing today fam?

Let's talk about the different types of consolers EP 3. 

1. EXCUSE-GIVERS: These type of people can give excuses for Africa!

Either they were in Australia or in the Sahara desert. 

They give so many excuses as to why they could not reach out to you when you needed them the most. 

Frankly, while those excuses might be valid, it is also a clear indicator as to where you stand on their priority list.

To the bereaved, shine your eyes o (be cautious)- By their fruits you shall know them. 

A friend in need is a friend indeed.

Personal Note: 

"Dear excuse givers, even Jesus said, Do unto others as you want others to do unto you. Shalom"

2. YOU-SHOULD HAVE...:

 These people say the most hurtful things like: You should have done this when it happened, or You shouldn't have done that.

Personal Note: 

We kindly advise you not to start any 'consolatory' sentence with "You should have...", just swallow it. 

The bereaved did his or her best at that given time. Do not add to the stack of guilt they are already experiencing (Guilt is one of the five stages of grief).

 

3. LET ME KNOW IF YOU NEED ANYTHING:

 They say things like, Let me know if you need anything, don't hesitate to call me if you need anything. 

Whilst this is good but in reality, the bereaved would most likely not be able to think of anything to ask of you.

 You are even adding brainstorming to the endless lists of things the bereaved should do. 

Rather you could say, 

"How can I be of help this season or right now? or " I'm going to the grocery store, what can I get for you?"

Which type of consoler are you?🤔

Let us know in the comment section below😄

In God's Grip,

TaiKeh Twins